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ALMOND – HIS POSITIVE ATTITUDE & CHOICE…..AA, The talking wall

This is a story about positivity. No matter, how low you may feel the choice to be positive remains with you and only you. We may think that others make us feel bad but in reality, it’s us who chooses to feel bad.

There was a man, who saw and lived life only through his choices. His name was Almond. He was the kind of a guy everyone loved to hate. He remained cool and calm, happy and in good mood at all times. Whenever someone asked anything, his rely was always filled with positive thoughts and suggestions. When someone asked him about how he is feeling today, do you know what his reply would be. He would say, “If I were any better, I would be twins!”

Such happy character Almond was.

Almond was unique in many ways but the most important character, his positivity made others feel positive as well. Almond worked in the Sales Department as a Sales Manager. All the companies he worked in and left people would leave their respective jobs to follow him around from company to company. The only reason people followed Almond was his attitude, his attitude towards life which got reflected in his work as well. He was a natural motivator. When someone in his team had an off (bad) day, Almond rushed to make him see the brighter picture, the positive side of the negative event. This in itself is very difficult but when you learn the effect of positive choices, you get transform into the ball of positivity, which when rolled, spreads positivity across all directions.

One day one of Almond’s new employee, Gerard, approached him in his cabin while he was reading a book. “I don’t get it!” Gerard said in the frustrating voice. He continued, “No one can be positive forever. It is not natural. I have tried and tried but at some point I get crazily upset. How do you do it? How can you be positive at all times? Almond smiles at Gerard and said, “Positivity is not to be forced. It is a natural way of expressing one’s desire to be on top of any situation”. Unable to comprehend what Almond said, Gerard kept looking at his face thinking about the crazy words he is speaking.

Almond after a pause said, “Every morning, when I wake up. I open my eyes and say to myself, Almond; you have two choices today to spend your day. Do you want to be in a good and happy mood today or would you like to b e in a sad and unhappy state for rest of the day. At that point I choose the first option, to be happy and cheerful and exhilarated state”.

Almond continued, “When I feel the situation is bad and something terrible has happened, my inner self asks me again, Almond would you like to be a victim of the situation or would you like to learn from it. I choose to learn from the situation”

Pausing for a moment, with a smile on his face, Almond said, “If someone comes complaining to me, my inner self again gives me two choices, would you like to accept the individual’s complain and would you like to point out the positive side of it. I choose the latter”.

But Gerard was in such a grumpy and frustrated mood that he exclaimed in anger, “Yeah, right, it’s all good to say and listen but it’s not that easy as it sounds”.

Almond immediately said, “Yes it is my friend”. Gerard kept quiet to know more.

Almond continued, “Gerard, life is a choice”. Differentiating between Inbox and Spam of an email, Almond said, “When a person is able to scrap all the noise from the sound, every situation transforms into choice. It is you who has to choose how to react in any given situation. Don’t think about results, think about the situation. It’s you who choose how people are going to affect your mood and feelings. It’s you who chooses to be in the good or bad mood. At the end, it is your and only your choice that decide your state of mind, it is your choice how you choose to live your life.

Gerard kept mum and left the office for that day and never returned back to office. Gerard opened his own small firm and started his new venture. For a long time Almond and Gerard did not meet. But Gerard often thought about Almond when he made choices about life instead of becoming a victim and reacting to it.

After a long period of time, Gerard heard from somewhere that Almond did an unthinkable, that he should have never done. Almond by that time became the Store Manager of a very good food chain. Almond forgot to secure the back door of the restaurant and was held on gun point by robbers.

Robbers forced him to reveal the security combination of the safe in which the whole month’s money was safely kept. Shaking with nervousness, the combination slipped from his mind and he was shot on the spot by the robbers who panicked before fleeing the scene. Fortunately, paramedics reached at the scene very quickly and he was rushed to the trauma centre. Almond was operated upon for a full complete day. His surgery went for 22 hours. Almond was shifted in the ICU and was discharged from the hospital after few weeks while the fragments of the bullets still remained in his body.

A year after the incident, Gerard found where Almond was and went to meet him to enquire about his health. Gerard upon meeting Almond asked, “How are you Almond” to which Almond replied, “If I were any better, I would be twins”.

Gerard mustered some courage to ask Almond about how he felt and what had gone through his mind as that incident happened.

Almond said, “At first, I was thinking, I should have secured the back door. Shouldn’t have left it open. Then when I was shot and I was lying down on the floor, my inner self cried out to me and asked me that Almond you still have two choices as usual. Would you choose to live or would you choose to die. As always, I chose to live”.

Gerard anxiously asked, “Almond were you not scared at all? Were you unconscious?”

Almond replied back saying, “The paramedics were brilliant. They came very quickly. They were continuously speaking to me and telling me that I was going to be fine. But at the time when I was transferred to the operating table in the trauma centre, I saw the real expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses. At that time I got really scared. I could very easily see in their eyes that I might not survive that I will die for sure. I knew I had to act swiftly and take corrective action”.

Gerard in excitement asked, “Almond, so what did you do? Tell me Almond, what did you actually do?”

Almond said, “Well, standing just near to my head, a very big nurse who was shouting questions at me, she suddenly asked if I am allergic to anything. Yes, I relied quickly and paused. The doctors and nurses waited for my reply…at that time I took deep breath remember my inner self and belief and yelled BULLETS. All doctors and Nurses actually laughed. Over their laughter, I told them, “I have chosen to live. Please operate me as if I am alive, not dead”. Gerard had tears in his eyes and couldn’t utter any words. He realized and understood that positive attitude does wonders not only in professional life but also at every moment of personal life too.

Almond lived, of course because of the magnificent skills of the doctors, but also due to his amazingly positive attitude towards life. This story is a very tiny attempt to guide you to understand and learn from Almond that every moment we have choices to live fully. Attitude after all is everything and positive attitude is the choice that always remains within you.

Materialistic and Spiritual Self…A subtle division… AA, the talking wall

We all are unique individuals but bounded by materialistic ropes that we have manufactured since our birth.

We are born alone with no clothes, probably no or minimal hair, closed eyes and trying to make our little self, accustom to the new world in which we have entered.

The moment Mother’s umbrella is removed and child gets exposed to the natural light which illuminates this world, a shock-like phenomenon occur in the self-absorbing mind of a child. The pain and fear of direct exposure to this light seems quite a lot for the child to bear and the cry to get back the umbrella starts the child’s journey into the mystical world of BRAHM.

Slowly and gradually the need of the umbrella dies down as new ways are shown to the child. They feel safe again and first smile shows the sign of child’s acceptance to the new world. The self-absorbing vault-like mind starts accumulating consciously unconscious thoughts, visions, images etc., deep inside. Simultaneously, the child encounters the savings inside the vault and tries to use it every moment to satisfy the arousal of query that invades the calm, soft and tender mind of the child. The invasion seems alien to the child as it has originated from the man-made boundaries of relationships, concrete walls, cosy bed and difference between safe, unsafe, inside and outside environment.

Elders starts educating the child as the age increases but child starts learning the moment this world envelopes the new soul and provides a separate mechanism for it to grow further. During the elderly teaching, child encounters hurdles of its own. While playing on the concrete or wooden or tiled floor, while trying to give shape to the scattered plastic blocks, while eating by mother’s hand or drinking water from a saucer plate or cup on the table, child’s mind questions each actions and vault throws answers to help resolve the query.

This process keeps getting matured and consciously known to the child as it starts crawling instead of sitting, tries to stand up but do not know what to do next. Child’s mind provokes the conscious to move the leg and it does without thinking. It seems like, the child is in control of some unknown force and the child falls down questioning the provoked thought, crying for the umbrella that once was over it.

The child always remembers the umbrella but is not attached to it as it was once, due to many other external and internal activities that has taken place since its introduction to this seemingly magical world of attractive surroundings. Still, it remembers and crave for it but crying seems the only way out as the mind assures the child that someone will address the present need of yours after the loud cry is heard.

Such emotions and cleverness yet unconscious and externally unprovoked. A defence mechanism or tool to find a shoulder? Who may know this?

Little by little, day by day, child starts walking without questioning the provocation of thought to take the next step forward and slowly, gradually, learns to listen to its inner voice. The voice that always shows the way forward. During this extraordinary and divine experience yet still very unconscious, helps the child to grow further as age progress.

Child grows and learns to speak instead of making crackling noises. The same vault and provoking thought assist the child to tone down the shrillness of the sound and roll of the tongue and use of the air within to pronounce a word; MAA-MAA.

I believe, every child in this world, irrespective of any geographical language barrier would have spoken this sound. It is very pleasant and every mother associates the sound to the name that they carry after the birth of their child, MAA.

Child seems to enjoy this sound, as every time the sound comes of out their small and limited opened mouth, someone special pays conscious attention towards them. Now, the cry has transformed into the sound of MAA. It is really an astonishing achievement for the child. It plays in the mind again and again and again. Isn’t it the innocence at its best?

Child fails many times during the learning phase but the attempts made are countless as the mind is young and focused on its own growth. It listens, it sees, it feels. Combination of so many factors starts building the daily itinerary along with personal library that child will have access to at all times during their lifespan. This process of making the mind accustomed to the surrounding provides an inner peace and satisfaction but moreover, it invites further queries and pushes the mind to find further resolutions to the risen queries.

This self developed, natural, divine methodology has allowed us to think, to judge, to act, to believe, to accept, to reject, to do, to undo the unlimited micro second actions that we continue exhibiting to the outer world. Is this the way mind evolves? It first, arouses the consciousness to the event and then open the channels for the mind to start its functioning of reasoning towards the events.

Are we growing in this way or it’s the other way around? Are we reading available materials to learn or do they exist ONLY for reference purposes?

Will this mind function the same way, if we allow it to reason with thoughts arising outside from within the other individuals or will it be same, if the reasoning is done with the thoughts, queries arising within ourselves?

The need to extract information is never ending but is it wise to sprint behind knowledge without analysing the information available within?

Do we already have the knowledge that is required by us from time-to-time or is it just a myth? Are we already realised or there is no such realisation?

There are billions of unsatisfied, unanswered, non-reasoned thoughts that exist in the child-like vast mind of every individual but I guess, it still wants to reason with the inner voice first. Do you want to give your child-like mind, the opportunity to once again start reasoning with the inner self rather than devoting the vast capacity of the mind to involve in outside world?

At the end, we know who actually taught us to speak, we know who actually taught us to walk, and we know who actually helped us grow.

The answer is always with YOU. The reason lies deep within, waiting to surface just one more time….

It feels good to be lost in the right direction -RG

We go through different phases in life. The phases where thoughts change, realizations occur and we take decisions or work on our dreams are the ones which pave our way to happiness. In other words, we live for the dream which outshines us. What’s happiness to you??? For me it’s the delight of feeling contentment and peace flowing through my heart and mind.

Every dream is special, because we as individual specialize in or attain specialization with course of fulfilling the dream. However, the sustainability and durability of dreams is what people around you will always raise questions about…isn’t it? I would say, probably they are not able to differentiate between thoughts and dreams. The essence of the dream is what matters and we would make it work, if that is actually our dream. Share your dreams and live them without fear as no other individual will think the same way you would.

Quantifying dreams is another common mistake we commit in initial phase itself which kills the dream. Big or small doesn’t matter, what matters is what is your objective to achieve the dream. I agree we need to earn a living but my dear even if the path is filled with roses the probability of having a few thorns cannot be ignored. Believe me once you start walking towards your own happiness things will fall in place on their own….don’t let the problems pull you down , face them , overcome them. You wouldn’t even come to know when the thunder passed by and you would be sailing smooth ….

That’s the moment when you would feel good to be lost in right direction because the gains will shine equally with in you same as they would on your bank account.

Know yourself before knowing anything else. Things will be easy.